"A woman's greatest fear is giving up her identity in a marriage; all she wants is a man to share her life with, not change it..."
TOTALLY AGREE!!!
With the marriage questions looming over my head and practically over the heads of everyone I know... and as I hear what people have to stay.. .I think we all can agree that marriage asks a woman to compromise more than it does a man...
Women are expected to be everything: a good wife, a good daughter-in-law, a good daughter, someone who works but at the same time someone who's at home taking care of dinner and other household chores... The roles are unlimited...
A man just has to be that... a man...
No matter how modern, forward thinking, educated, etc. women are, we are expected to balance everything. It doesn't matter what our ambitions are... as long as we can keep it in line with our family... its ok... otherwise it's a rocky marriage... (of course you can always choose not to get married)... and no matter how modern, forward thinking, educated, etc. a man is... he expects a wife to be a wife above everything...
In the whole process... a woman is scared of losing her identity... because unfortunately it almost seems certain...
gosh that sounds depressing! but on the flip side... i do think if one finds the right partner... who understands the other's identity and can fully accept it... then everything is ok... i guess the keyword here is IF... :)
Cheers to that!
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While i agree that women tend to give up more to make a family work, sacrifices on ambitions and aspirations is seen both ways. A man may have to hold on to a job he doesnt like or a career he hates coz it helps him make more money / provide stability for family.
I guess the compromise stems more from the fact that once married both spouses are required to become mature and nurture a life together - whether their own .. (buy a house, save for future etc)or for their kids.
The real scary thing is to have the realisation that once married YOU and only YOU are responsible for your life... One loses the security provided by parents or the opton to blame someone else for our choices and decisions..
For a woman it is important to find a man who can honour her and respect her as a equal contributor to their family
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